However, some kids are more prone to bullying than others.
Most Common Bully Victims
Most of the bully victims are kids who are either:
- Too short or too tall
- Too fat or too thin
- Very good or very poor at studies
- Very good or very poor at extra curricular activities
- Having some physical malformation or deformity
- Clumsy looking
Silent bully victims
Victims of bullies go through tremendous mental pressure, harassment and humiliation. Bully victims are scared of the bully so much that they don’t want to tell it to anyone. Not even to their parents.
Firstly, because they are ashamed of telling about the humiliation they have been going through.
Secondly, they are scared. They think that if they tell it to the parents or the teachers, the bully would settle scores for that also and would be more furious than ever before.
Therefore, they choose to silently suffer all the miseries and keep the bully as ‘my secret bully’. This attitude encourages the bully as if the victim is telling the bully “Come, bully me more.”
Signs of bully victims
The body and mind of bully victims work together to show some signs about this suffering. If we, as parents and teachers, notice those signs, we can get a clue that the child could be bullied by someone. Then we can find ways to deal with the problem. A bully victim may show some of the following signs:
- Doesn’t want to go to a specific place, mostly school or playground. These could be the places where the child is being bullied. Wants to go to places where there is no bully as they are stressed with being bullied and always thinking ways to get out of the bully clutch. The bully victim starts hating the place where he is being bullied and doesn’t want to go to such places. The child might be scared of a class bully, bully in school, a neighborhood bully or a playground bullies.
- Talks to himself or cries during sleep. The child may even wet the bed. This happens because the incidents of bulling are dominating the child’s mind and he frequently has dreams about being bullied.
- Insists you to drop him to the school. If the child is being bullied in the school bus, he doesn’t want to go to school by school bus. For the child, it is a Bully bus.
- Looks lethargic or sick in the morning and seem better later during the day.
- Doesn’t feel like studying.
- Doesn’t speak well with confidence. Confidence level falls down.
- Remains silent and doesn’t participate in normal daily life activities.
- Wants to change his route to a specific place, like school or play ground. Because he is being bullied on the way to that place.
- Stops eating and looses weight.
- Eats too much, especially after coming from school. Because the bullies at school eats his lunch and he remains hungry.
- Always short of pocket money. Because the bully snatches pocket money. The child insists to raise the pocket money. If we don’t raise it, the child may steal money only to give it to the bully.
- Can’t give reasonable account of the pocket money.
- Always looses his stationary items like pen, pencils, eraser etc., and can't explain if it is asked for. Because the bully snatches these things and the bully victims children tell us that these things were lost.
- Doesn’t want to talk about the problem.
- Tells lies and makes excuses about many things.
- Suddenly become aggressive or may start bullying younger and weaker brothers, sisters, friends and neighborhood children etc. It happens because the child wants to ease out his frustration.
- Usually returns home having scars, bruises, scratches, cuts etc. or with upset clothes and school bag.
- May threaten or even attempt suicide.