Kids don't come with an instruction manual. Every parent has to learn parenting by doing it himself by hit and trial method. If you have a well behaved child you are lucky ... and an exception to the general rule. The general rule being 'Children and discipline have nothing to do with each other'.
Reading books, talking to friends and relatives, counselling with Psychiatrists and Psychologists may also help you to solve some problems. But if your kids are drive you crazy and you feel that things are going out of your control, you need to examin the situation throughly, and pick up some special tools to get hold of the situation.
Doing all this is an extensive exercise, which shouldn't be taken up without an expert's analysis and guidance. Just reading a book on parenting won't solve such a situation.
James Lehman, one of America's most successful behavioral therapists brings help and hope to the millions of parents whose kids are disrespectful, defiant, obnoxious or out of control.
Based on his 30 years experience, James had created a comprehensive parent's program for managing challenging behaviors in children, without raising parents' voice and blood pressure. He has rightly named it The Total Transformation® Program.
James offers a step-by-step system to help parents get back in control of their family and get their children and discipline together so taht the kids respect and listen to them again. Real Help For Real-Life Parenting Problem.
The program throughly teaches how to:
- Stop any argument with your kid right in its tracks.
- Defuse temper tantrums and show your child you mean business.
- Say 10 words when he gets mouthy - Slam the brakes on ugly talk and disrespectful behavior once and for all.
- Stop outbursts before they even start.
- Get your child to take responsibility for his actions and behave appropriately.
- Get him to go to bed at night and wake up on time in the morning.
- Make a child with a behavior disorder (ADD, ADHD, bipolar and more) behave.
James was born in 1946. His parents were alcoholic and unable to take care of him. When he was just 2 years old, they abandoned him in a basement.
He was found by Mr. Teddy Lehman, who, with his wife Marguerite, went on to adopt him. James began to exhibit oppositional and defiant behavior at home and in the classroom. There was no such thing as special education then, and as he grew older these behaviors became more severe.
By age 14, he quit school, left home, lived on the streets in New York City, and drifted into a life of substance abuse and crime, which led to numerous prison sentences.
James had spent nearly six years in various prisons, when a judge sentenced him to an accountability based treatment program that turned his life around.
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He graduated from that treatment program and participated in a period of training to become a staff coordinator and his career as a counselor, therapist and teacher began. James attended Fordham University for 2 years, moved to New England, and obtained a Bachelor's Degree in Social Work, graduating Summa Cum Laude. As he continued working with children, families and professionals, James was able to attend Boston University and, in 1989, graduated with a Master's Degree in Social Work.
While working at a comprehensive residential treatment center, James began private practice, providing treatment, consultation and training to families, public schools and state agencies. The focus of that work was to provide parents, teachers and case managers with the tools they needed to successfully challenge difficult children to develop the problem solving and self management skills they needed to be successful.
For three decades James Lehman has worked with troubled teens, younger children and discipline problems, families and professionals who live with, educate, treat and assist in managing them.
In public schools, residential treatment centers, private schools, and numerous outpatient and inpatient settings, James has developed an approach to manage children and discipline them by helping them to learn to solve social problems without hiding behind a facade of disrespectful, obnoxious, or abusive behavior.
James Lehman brings a wealth of personal experience to the arena of child and adolescent therapy, and has good reason to focus on behavioral management, having experienced severe behavioral problems himself as a child and adolescent.
Today, James Lehman is America's most successful behavioral therapists and provides training and consultation to schools, treatment centers and state agencies. He lives with his wife, Janet, who is also a social worker and has an adult son, Jeremy.
He is the creator of The Total transformation Programme, the most comprehensive programme for improving children behavior.