Before you read any further on this site about how to discipline your children, I recommend you have an approximate idea about how much disciplined your children are; or to put it other way round, how much indisciplined your children are?
That's what I call Discipline Quotient (DQ) on this site. Discipline Quotient or DQ, wherever used on this site, has noting to do with 'Intelligence Quotient' or 'IQ'.
Every society has different norms of discipline. What may be perfectly accepted in one society may be considered grave indiscipline in some other society. Therefore, there can't be any test to standardise or measure indiscipline on a scale.
Therefore there can't be any standard Discipline Quotient Test.
And there is no need for any complex test for this for us as parents.
We can easily have an approximate idea about it by answering some simple questions about the behavior of our children.
If you are interested in taking a simple test about your children's indiscipline level, click on any one of the links below depending upon their age.
The results may surprise you.
- Toddler between 2-3 years old
- Children between 3-12 years old
- Children between 13-17 years old
Check Your Toddler's Discipline Quotient Age group: 2-3 years
Does your child frequently ...
1. Demand things and insist on getting his own way?
2. Get angry or frustrated without much provocation?
3. Have a tantrum or yell or scream if she does not get her own way?
4. Say ‘no’ to most things or to everything he is asked to do?
5. Have problems sharing with other children of the same age?
6. Show jealousy and act out when you pay attention to siblings?
7. Fail to respond to your requests or to ‘no’?
8. Yell, bite, kick or scream to get attention or to get their own way?
9. Make faces or ignore you when you try to give them direction?
10. Cry or refuse to go to bed or to take a nap, give up a toy or get dressed?
11. Become more difficult to handle in public?
12. Cause you to come home early from an event or to feel uncomfortable leaving them with a sitter because of their behavior?
13. Behave well with a sitter or grandparent, but not with you?
14. Misbehave when he knows you are about to leave him with someone else?
15. Revert to infantile behavior when angry or when disciplined?
Check Your Child's Discipline Quotient Age group: 3-12 years
Does your child frequently ...
1. Demand things and insist on getting his own way?
2. Get angry or frustrated without much provocation?
3. Have a tantrum or yell or scream if she does not get her own way?
4. Break the rules even when she has been told what the rules are and why they are important?
5. Say ‘no’ to most things or to everything he is asked to do?
6. Have problems sharing with other children of the same age?
7. Fail to respond to your requests or to ‘no’?
8. Yell, bite, kick or scream to get attention or to get their own way?
9. Refuse to play alone and complain about being bored?
10. Attempt to manipulate or control others to get what he wants?
11. Show little respect for adults or other children?
12. Equate NEED with WANT (“I need that toy”)?
13. Lose patience or attention after a few minutes and look for something else to interest him?
14. Refuse to obey bedtimes, curfews or other timetables?
15. Become more difficult to handle in public?
16. Interrupt your conversations with others?
17. Ignore the consequence of his bad behavior and then become angry with you because you discipline them?
18. Demand tradeoffs and bribes before she will cooperate?
19. Find it difficult to make and keep friends because she is too controlling or bossy?
20. Cause you to come home early from an event or to feel uncomfortable leaving them with a sitter because of their behavior?
Check Your Child's Discipline Quotient Age group: 13-17 years
Does your child frequently ...
1. Make demands and treat you with little respect?
2. Get angry or frustrated without much provocation?
3. Yell or slam doors when you are trying to talk to them?
4. Break the rules even when she has been told what the rules are and why they are important?
5. Say ‘no’ and become sullen or withdrawn when asked to do something?
6. Have problems cooperating with you over simple things?
7. Fail to respond to your requests or to ‘no’?
8. Become secretive or accusatory or defensive when you ask a question?
9. Refuse to join in family or community events?
10. Attempt to manipulate or control others to get what he wants?
11. Show little respect for siblings or others?
12. Change her own rules often?
13. Lose patience or attention or ignore you when you talk to him?
14. Refuse to obey curfews, and issues that relate to personal safety?
15. Argue with you in public?
16. Interrupt your conversations or ignore other people in the room and demand your attention?
17. Ignore the consequence of his bad behavior and then become angry with you because you discipline them?
18. Make promises about good behavior and break them?
19. Find it difficult to make and keep friends because she is too controlling or bossy?
20. Ignore priorities and rules about things like homework, sports, using the car, cleaning his room?
NOTE:
Be sure to include a thorough health evaluation to be sure your child does not have medical or mental disorders that may affect his ability to understand and obey directions.
if you answer yes then add +1 for your score.
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